Mom bonding

Guys who smoke can vouch for how much smoking helps in male bonding. Similarly having delivered a baby helps in Mom bonding.

When I used to see all these expectant mothers before, I never cared so much. I am really bad at remembering dates. I don't remember any birthdays (except mine), so remembering their due dates was out of scope. I used to be like, "Ok she's going to go on leave soon".... "Oh, she's back already". But I was surprised when so many people called me up before my D-day to wish good luck and to give me tips.

Lot of new Moms especially called me up to tell me about to-dos and gave me some really valuable tips. Some females whom I had hardly interacted before stopped by my cubicle to talk to me and check on the general progress of the baby. It was just wonderful to bond with all those moms at work. It suddenly opened up a whole new network for me, which otherwise was not possible.

I must admit that I used to get bored to death when people talked about their kids on lunch table. I used to wonder how those females can talk only about their kids (and in-laws and sometimes husbands) all the time. But when you are expecting, the whole perspective changes.

It was sort of paradigm shift for me. Nothing helps like "cribbing" when you are expecting. And you need another first-time-mom to crib about your problems. I felt so close to them. We could share our experiences, crib about the pregnancy blues, exchange notes on important tests, crib about labor pain and generally talk a lot about the whole baby-growing-business. Talking to other moms doesn't really help, since they had been-there-done-that long before (and thus forgotten most of the painful stuff).

All I can say is, I found some really good friends during this time. I hope our friendship grows along with our babies.

:-)